What Do You Really Really Want?

Recently, I was listening to the six phases of meditation by Vishen Lakhiani and something he said really struck me.

Lakhiani’s comment that keeps ringing in my head went something like this, “We over estimate what we can accomplish in one year BUT underestimate how much we can accomplish in three years.” As I thought about this insight, I have come to recognize both how true it is, and its implications for managing our expectations. Specifically, how often do we feel let down because we do not accomplish our goals? And, rather than “failing,” how much of our shortfall is really caused by unrealistic expectations in the first place??!!??

So, how about a reframe based on Lakhiani’s observation? Here is what I did…

I stopped and thought about what I want certain elements of my life to look like in THREE years. I visualized it with as many details as possible (all this was part of the mediation, BTW). I then focused on what needs to happen today to make that specific vision a reality. This process does not have to be complicated. For example, if you want an “amazing relationship,” you can start by examining how you are treating yourself and the people around you in your life today. Or, if you want to expand your business, ask yourself if you are you sharing your ideas with someone who will inspire you or shoot you down.

Looking back, I realized that I wrote goals for myself in my journal 4-5 years ago that are a reality today. And, at the time, I had no idea how it would (or could) all happen.

But, I now know it is because I consistently take daily action to move my life along my desired path. Some days it feels like two steps forward and one step back. Other days, I feel like I am trudging through thick mud. But I always try to keep moving and stay focused on my long-term goals.

I invite you to do the same.

Spend a few minutes and really tap into what you want to create and how you want your life to FEEL. Write it down, go back regularly and fill in the details. Set a realistic time expectation – Rome was not built in a day or even a year. Instead, put a date in your calendar three years from now, plant the seeds, nurture them and you will be able to look back and see how it all come to life!!!

I strongly believe that we create our reality through the type of long term visioning that Lakhiani reminded me of with his quote.

Let’s make it amazing!

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